(2) Dear Kwang,I recently attended a soccer match that my children were playing in at our school. I noticed that very few parents came to the game. It made me sad that the parents seemed to care so little about their children. I am appalled by their lack of sensitivity and that of the other parents who did not accompany their children. Please tell your readers that part of the responsibility of parenthood includes being there to give your children emotional support, even if it means missing work. — Outraged in Ortakoy
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Dear Outraged,
I understand your point. For children and for their growth, it's important to show parents' full emotional support so that their children can feel, "Oh, my parents are here to support me. I should do well to make them proud of me", it's obvious that children want their parents to come and show interest in them. Some kids who don't know their parents' love might become criminals due to lack of love or support for themselves which creates depression.
However, I disagree with the fact you said that even if parents miss their work, they should support their children. There's nothing worse than losing a job; and losing a way to live. Can you live in this world without money or job? If parents become unable to provide things their children want, what will their children think and feel and what will the parents feel? They feel really sorry for them for not be able to do things because of money. Think about children on the streets outside. Their parents must have lost their job so that's why they are begging for money. Not all parents feel the same, although they love their children. Some parents might work really hard to make money, so each family has different "Rule" or their way to raise their children. Even if you feel disappointed, please be try to understand other families.
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(4) Dear Kwang,I have many close friends in my school. We all have unlocked lockers in our PE locker room. My friends feel quite comfortable to take things from my locker—my school uniform shirt, my coat, my deodorant—and use them. I don’t mind, but I wish they would put the things back where they found them. I have received two discipline slips because I cannot find my uniform shirt. What can I do to get them to respect my property and my need for “boundaries?” –Frustrated in Ferikoy
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Dear Frustrated,
Doesn't that make you angry when your things disappear when you need them? It will make you to feel so frustrated or angry if someone took something and forgot to return it. You will resent that person for not being careful with your property. This problem is a matter of "respect". If they respect you, they will take extra care when they borrow your property, even if they feel unfortable. However, if they don't have any respect, will they be careful? This won't happen, but some may throw away your stuff or treat it like a trash. To prevent this problem, you need to show some respect to your friends although they are really close. Think about a child and a parent. If the parent is always easy, always smiling, even if the child does something wrong, the child will think "Oh, my father or mother does not mind about my bad behavior." Because of that, little by little that thought diminishes or devalue "respect" for his parent(s). I know it is not right but I think you should show some "seriousness" to your friends just like parents who show seriousness to their children to discipline them.
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(8) Dear Kwang,I recently moved to Turkey. I feel isolated because there are few American families here, and I do not speak Turkish. I home-school my kids, so we don’t have many opportunities to meet other foreigners. It has been five months, and I still can't get over the culture shock. I spend my days cooped up with my kids, unable to do the simplest things. I can't seem to live up to my husband's expectations, and he has become quite critical. This is hurting our marriage. Please help me before I go crazy. — Anonymous Sufferer
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Your letter reminded me when I first came to Turkey. I suffered a lot both relationships and economically. Despite the economic problems, the one thing that troubled me most was that there weren't enough Koreans compared to Koreans in Korea and it made me really feel like an "outcast". But, since I'm a student I had to go to school. I had to go "outside" of my house. Going to school made me break out of the "box"; a box which was an obstacle that blocked me from people. So, just try to break your own box by or going outside. Otherwise your problem will get worse and you may end up live like a fool.
Friday, November 28, 2008
Thursday, November 13, 2008
FACEBOOK ph.7
Do you know that 132million people have a common interest? These people use a website called "Facebook" to use in many ways for sharing ideas, and common interests or building relationships.
Many people use different social networks,but according to Business Week Online;(8/14/2008) the number of Facebook users has increased rapidly. It is most popular.
It's good for people in the world; Facebook users make friends from different cultures or countries with different thoughts and backgrounds because by building relationships with them, the users can learn many things from their friends' thoughts and experiences. However, too much good can be bad. Once you start building relationships strong, you start to care about your friends more by spending more time on Facebook and sometimes you even use your study time or work time on Facebook to the build relationships stronger. Therefore, if you are a student, your grades will go down eventually as time goes "It wastes studying time",said Inae.L, a student. Once people spend more than 2 weeks (minimum) on Facebook, they will be addicted to Facebook. Little by little they find that it's really hard to get out of addiction of Facebook and, they (won't) know when to stop",-Emily.Y. said
I joined Facebook in summer, 2007. During the first week, I only had 3 friends but as more people added me as their friends or I added people as my friends, the amount of time I spent on Facebook increased. Therefore, because of that from my point of view, Facebook is addictive and it's hard to control or set a limited amount of time. I also feel that I'm really addicted to Facebook because whenever I turn on my computer, I check my Facebook account first just like e-mail. Facebook got rid of "e-mail" from my life due to its easier communications with others.
But although it's addictive and take away our studying time, it gives us some benefits. As Dani R, said, "It helps connect with friends,” we use this “opportunity” to build more relationships than relationships made in school because it’s 1:1 chat, so we don’t need to care about other people’s attention. Also unless people bring a voice recorder to school, comments on pictures of our lives by our friends are also part of our good memory when we look them a few months or years later. We will say “Oh, I miss that time” or “I remember when he/she said that.” Since it’s your “own web” unless you delete things, it will remain forever. In other words, this can last longer than written comments although written comments are sometimes much better. It's not just for students,either Businessmen can also use Facebook to help their business or relationships with their business partners. According to one businessman sited in Business Week Online (8/13/2008), “I’m in the business of collecting people. Relationships are my currency. The more people I know, the more deals I’m exposed to. The more deals I’m exposed to, the more opportunities I have.” From my point of view, workers (businessmen who are working on their project to sell products with other companies) will post pictures and explanations or plans of their projects on Facebook and share ideas with their business partners because it’s a lot easier and less complicated then e-mail.
So, the only thing we have to careful about using Facebook is that we should be able to control ourselves; not to become too addictive but use wisely, set limited amount of time per day. Once we are used to the control, we will be fine and have fewer struggles.
Many people use different social networks,but according to Business Week Online;(8/14/2008) the number of Facebook users has increased rapidly. It is most popular.
It's good for people in the world; Facebook users make friends from different cultures or countries with different thoughts and backgrounds because by building relationships with them, the users can learn many things from their friends' thoughts and experiences. However, too much good can be bad. Once you start building relationships strong, you start to care about your friends more by spending more time on Facebook and sometimes you even use your study time or work time on Facebook to the build relationships stronger. Therefore, if you are a student, your grades will go down eventually as time goes "It wastes studying time",said Inae.L, a student. Once people spend more than 2 weeks (minimum) on Facebook, they will be addicted to Facebook. Little by little they find that it's really hard to get out of addiction of Facebook and, they (won't) know when to stop",-Emily.Y. said
I joined Facebook in summer, 2007. During the first week, I only had 3 friends but as more people added me as their friends or I added people as my friends, the amount of time I spent on Facebook increased. Therefore, because of that from my point of view, Facebook is addictive and it's hard to control or set a limited amount of time. I also feel that I'm really addicted to Facebook because whenever I turn on my computer, I check my Facebook account first just like e-mail. Facebook got rid of "e-mail" from my life due to its easier communications with others.
But although it's addictive and take away our studying time, it gives us some benefits. As Dani R, said, "It helps connect with friends,” we use this “opportunity” to build more relationships than relationships made in school because it’s 1:1 chat, so we don’t need to care about other people’s attention. Also unless people bring a voice recorder to school, comments on pictures of our lives by our friends are also part of our good memory when we look them a few months or years later. We will say “Oh, I miss that time” or “I remember when he/she said that.” Since it’s your “own web” unless you delete things, it will remain forever. In other words, this can last longer than written comments although written comments are sometimes much better. It's not just for students,either Businessmen can also use Facebook to help their business or relationships with their business partners. According to one businessman sited in Business Week Online (8/13/2008), “I’m in the business of collecting people. Relationships are my currency. The more people I know, the more deals I’m exposed to. The more deals I’m exposed to, the more opportunities I have.” From my point of view, workers (businessmen who are working on their project to sell products with other companies) will post pictures and explanations or plans of their projects on Facebook and share ideas with their business partners because it’s a lot easier and less complicated then e-mail.
So, the only thing we have to careful about using Facebook is that we should be able to control ourselves; not to become too addictive but use wisely, set limited amount of time per day. Once we are used to the control, we will be fine and have fewer struggles.
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
unbiased and biased
Unbiased
On 26th of September 2008, 33 IGA members attended a free college fair which was held at the Hilton Hotel for 3 hours. About 600-700 Turkish students attended the fair which represented 70 schools from Canada, U.S., and Europe to find out more about universities by talking to reps. Students took brochures and colorful or unique pens from each school as they finished the conversations as souvenirs. 80% of students who attended the fair appreciated the pens and other goodies that were available while other 60% felt it was a worthwhile experience to find and learn more about colleges. “Overall it was a really neat experience to see possibilities for the future and enjoy the extravagant atmosphere of the Hilton,” said one of the participants from IGA.
Biased
On 26th of September 2008, 33 IGA members attended a free college fair which was held at the Hilton Hotel for about 3 hours. At the hotel, 70 schools from Canada, U.S., and Europe were represented. Approximately 600-700 Turkish students attended the fair.Only half of the students actually had any long conversation with the school reps to learn more about the colleges. Most however, acquired pens and brochures as souvenirs or got extra information. It was not easy at all because the room, even though it was huge, it was crowded with hundreds of people. One couldn’t breathe sufficiently due to the hot steam produced by the participants and stuffy room. Still, some students took advantage of the crowded conditions and distracted representatives, collecting many pens rather than asking about information for colleges and universities. Of the students who attended, only 66% said it was a worthwhile experience; 89% (which is a lot of students) said that they appreciated the pens and goodies that were available."I'm not sure if we'd do it again. The traffic was horrendous. In addition, it was so crowded, it was hard for students to spend any quality time with the college reps." said Mrs. Sanderlin, the chaperone of the IGA students who attended.
On 26th of September 2008, 33 IGA members attended a free college fair which was held at the Hilton Hotel for 3 hours. About 600-700 Turkish students attended the fair which represented 70 schools from Canada, U.S., and Europe to find out more about universities by talking to reps. Students took brochures and colorful or unique pens from each school as they finished the conversations as souvenirs. 80% of students who attended the fair appreciated the pens and other goodies that were available while other 60% felt it was a worthwhile experience to find and learn more about colleges. “Overall it was a really neat experience to see possibilities for the future and enjoy the extravagant atmosphere of the Hilton,” said one of the participants from IGA.
Biased
On 26th of September 2008, 33 IGA members attended a free college fair which was held at the Hilton Hotel for about 3 hours. At the hotel, 70 schools from Canada, U.S., and Europe were represented. Approximately 600-700 Turkish students attended the fair.Only half of the students actually had any long conversation with the school reps to learn more about the colleges. Most however, acquired pens and brochures as souvenirs or got extra information. It was not easy at all because the room, even though it was huge, it was crowded with hundreds of people. One couldn’t breathe sufficiently due to the hot steam produced by the participants and stuffy room. Still, some students took advantage of the crowded conditions and distracted representatives, collecting many pens rather than asking about information for colleges and universities. Of the students who attended, only 66% said it was a worthwhile experience; 89% (which is a lot of students) said that they appreciated the pens and goodies that were available."I'm not sure if we'd do it again. The traffic was horrendous. In addition, it was so crowded, it was hard for students to spend any quality time with the college reps." said Mrs. Sanderlin, the chaperone of the IGA students who attended.
When I first wanted to use a Turkish toilet, a guy in the center of two bathroom doors didn’t let me go in because I didn’t pay money for the toilet use. I was so shocked and surprised when he asked money. Now I know that almost every country in Europe wants money for public toilet use, but at that time I didn’t know: in my home country, paying money for a public toilet is not required.
The same thing also happened when we (the whole family) traveled to Bulgaria with my friend’s family. My friend and I had drunk too much water because of some spicy Chinese food and, of course, we had to use public bathroom. We walked into a public bathroom, but a guy in the center (just like in Turkey) didn’t let us go in. Since we didn’t speak Bulgarian and also saw some kind of euro sign with 1, we just gave him 2 Euros and he didn’t say anything.
The same thing also happened when we (the whole family) traveled to Bulgaria with my friend’s family. My friend and I had drunk too much water because of some spicy Chinese food and, of course, we had to use public bathroom. We walked into a public bathroom, but a guy in the center (just like in Turkey) didn’t let us go in. Since we didn’t speak Bulgarian and also saw some kind of euro sign with 1, we just gave him 2 Euros and he didn’t say anything.
Last Tuesday IGA invited all high school students and their parents for a school program discussion; administrators, students, and parents shared ideas about colleges and other exams.
The eleventh graders (or juniors) used this chance to make more money for their fund raising project which is for the seniors who will be leaving this school at the end of the year with their high school diplomas. The juniors sold baked goods with coffee, tea and cider at very cheap price to increase the buyers' demand so that they could make more money. Unexpectedly, the fundraiser was a success, which allowed the juniors to make 192.1 YTL. Except for 2 or 3 people, the majority of the junior class participated and helped the fundraiser in different parts like baking, serving drinks, or calculating money for change or for total profit.
However there’s always a problem for a happy moment. Although the juniors sold many foods and drinks to the parents and students, the kitchen, which was used for cooking, was so dirty and full of mess which made Mrs. Blythe and other teachers angry. The students have promised they will clean up their mess in the future.
The eleventh graders (or juniors) used this chance to make more money for their fund raising project which is for the seniors who will be leaving this school at the end of the year with their high school diplomas. The juniors sold baked goods with coffee, tea and cider at very cheap price to increase the buyers' demand so that they could make more money. Unexpectedly, the fundraiser was a success, which allowed the juniors to make 192.1 YTL. Except for 2 or 3 people, the majority of the junior class participated and helped the fundraiser in different parts like baking, serving drinks, or calculating money for change or for total profit.
However there’s always a problem for a happy moment. Although the juniors sold many foods and drinks to the parents and students, the kitchen, which was used for cooking, was so dirty and full of mess which made Mrs. Blythe and other teachers angry. The students have promised they will clean up their mess in the future.
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